Life’s been a roller coaster for a while now, and I have been going through some personal things. However, I’m starting to see through the clouds and getting back to standing on my two feet again in my new small town. I’m so thankful to have the people that have helped me through these things, and I am now getting professional help. We all need a space to release the hard stuff; shoving it down and not dealing with it is not the answer. If my message can help one person, then sharing a little more of myself is worth it.
Please take this as a friendly reminder to check in on your people every once in a while, especially when going through any type of loss. There’s no timeline when it comes to grief.
What I’m learning:
😢 Let myself cry through my grief. If I suppress or ignore it, it will find its way out when least expected. You gotta “𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗴𝗼“! ⛄ For example, I recently cried in front of a stranger. She was very compassionate, and now she’s my new friend! You know who you are!
🆘 Part of healing is asking for help, there’s no material thing you can give anyone who has lost something intangible, but the gift of lending your time or ear is the best gift of all.
💡 Don’t dim your light for anyone; if anything, work to shine brighter! Turn it up to high power and blind them! If they can’t handle it, it’s a sign they need to GTFO. #shinebrightlikeadiamond
🌻 When words aren’t enough, the best thing you can do for someone going through a hard time is to be there. If you can’t be there physically:
📱 Pick up the phone
📪 Mail a card
😊 Handmake or buy them a small gift that you know they will enjoy and will make them smile, or let them know that you are thinking of them.
It helps to feel less alone.
A few ideas to let them know you are thinking of them:
📚 Grief books or a journal
🕯️ A candle
🎁 Something that gives them hope, like a bracelet, flowers/seeds, or an item you know they’d enjoy to help keep their spirits up.
See below for the different sympathy boxes I've created along with the gifters and recipient responses.